A new book teaches women to train their husbands like trainers teach whales

Secret? Ignore their bad behavior, and lavishly reward their good behavior

Leaves his laundry on the floor? – don't nag, stay patient

Washes one dish? Puts one sock in the hamper – give him a hug, declare his greatness, rejoice in the victory

Soon you will have a husband who will act and do as you please

What Shamu Taught Me about Life, Love and Marriage

Amy Sutherland

Husband – often tardy,

“These minor annoyances are not the stuff of separation and divorce, but in sum they began to dull my love for Scott. I wanted — needed — to nudge him a little closer to perfect, to make him into a mate who might annoy me a little less, who wouldn't keep me waiting at restaurants, a mate who would be easier to love.”

Watched whales and dolphins – teach them to jump from tank

Reward behavior I like and ignore behavior I don't

Chips and salsa – at end of counter to keep him from hovering while she cooked

Pick up one sock – applaud and reward

Nagging makes behavior worse – passive aggressive

Lot of folks think nit-picky on negative will help improvement

And lot of folks afraid to tell women to use their feminine wiles to manipulated and improve their men

Praise, rewards, patience, and applause make behavior better

Sounds really familiar

Remember the passage read at most weddings?

Love is patient, love is kind...not arrogant or rude

Love does not rejoice in the wrong but rejoices in the right

Patience, rewarding good behavior – hallmarks of love

Ladies, don't nag – as hard as it may be for you

Reward us men like trainers giving mackerel parts to a whale

Then stand back and behold, a marriage that is mutual, loving, and whole

We men learn quickly – just give us a chance (and a little loving wouldn't hurt)



MISC

Andy will never get married

Amy

1) How in world get interested in training your husband?

2) What gave you the link with exotic animals and trainers?

3) How is he responding?

4) Hard not to nag, isn't it?

5) What's key lesson?

6) An example of what you are doing with him now? Is there hope for male species? Should Andy ever get married?