So much response from last night's show (if you missed it, listen to it in the archive/podcast/MP3 here on the site), that I am posting the 7 questions every couple should ask and discuss before getting married.
Do you like to save MONEY?
How much HOUSEWORK do you want to do?
Describe the kind of SEX life you hope for?
Who will be our FRIENDS and social network after we are married?
Tell me about your family and what kind of IN-LAWS you think they will be?
How many KIDS do you hope to have and how much time do you want to spend with them?
Share your FAITH with me


Is love
Faithful?
Fruitful?
Free?
Full?
Forever?
If not, keep looking.
Is there a history of mental illness in your family and are you crazy?
This is especially important for young couples because a lot of mental illnesses manifest in the 20s. You can have everything else going for you and going right but if your spouse literally looses touch with reality it will all fall apart.
The vow is for better or worse so a mental illness should not be a deal breaker. With proper treatment and medication most problems can be dealt with. However, if the person is not getting treatment then things can go bad really fast.
It’s also important to really pay attention to little signs and not dismiss them. Subtle signs that there is a problem will show up before the blaring neon light of a major incident. Pay special attention to unreasonable anxiety and fear in your spouse as a sign that there might be a deeper issue.