Last night's show was really fun. A good hour on my dad and Christmas, a fun hour on pastors and confidentiality, and sandwiched in between was an entertaining discussion about swingers and the sex club Jack Trulock runs at his house in Duncanville, Texas. A place where folks come to play Naked Twister every weekend.

I simply do not see how the swinging lifestyle can make a marriage stronger. It weakens the intimacy and trust in a relationship and causes a breakdown of the emotional and sexual bond that God brings about. However, one listener disagreed, and I simply had to share an excerpt from her email. No names - just content:

I LOVE listening to your show and consider myself to be a very spiritual person and a Christian. However, I've noticed that you DO enjoy the topic of swinging and open marriages for many of your shows. I understand why, as a minister, you do not condone it. However, the case in Duncanville, TX really upsets me because the neighbors are trying to shut down the naked twister guy because of the activities in his private home.

If he had cars parking on that street on Friday and Saturday nights because everyone was coming over to his home to study the Bible or the Q'uran, or to watch football games on TV, I'm willing to bet that the neighbors wouldn't say a word about it. They are just bothered because they do not agree with what is happening there and so they are getting the government involved. I think this is a dangerous path to eroding our freedom and rights as private citizens of the United States of America. Whoever goes to those parties is going there willingly and can participate as much or as little as they choose (I know because I go!). They are not having sex on the front lawn (or the back lawn either, I presume!) which would violate public indecency laws. They are in a basement where I'm sure they can not be seen through a window by any curious neighbors. Whose rights are being violated and why should the neighbors care? What right does the local government have to say they can not have a party? If that guy wanted to throw a party every night of the week...who cares? I saw info about this on Fox News and they said that now the cars are being parked at a remote location and they have a shuttle bus to take party goers from the house to their cars. There is no price of admission. People contribute $$ and/or bring their own liquor so it's not a business.

By the way...I am one of those people who is happily married for 10+ years and we have been in the lifestyle since we were dating. We have some extraordinary friends and have met the most amazing people all over the world. The lifestyle is full of very successful, well-educated, entrepreneurial, independent people (as you know). Everyone I have encountered is happy and well-adjusted (okay - there are a few exceptions to that one!). They are beautiful people inside and out! I felt terrible hearing Polly's story on the air. I don't think I've ever heard of or seen anyone in that type of abusive/controlling relationship. I was previously married to an abuser (we were not swingers) and know the fear, anger, guilt and sadness of those relationships can be overwhelming.

I know swinging is not 'mainstream' and it's definitely not for everyone or every couple. We don't try to recruit anyone. But we also don't want to be outlaws for our private activities. I understand that it's fun and titillating radio to talk about us. Have fun! We sure are!

Thank you and Merry Christmas!